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You Are Not Alone

When your loved one has died, suddenly it seems like all meaning has been drained from your life. When you wake in the morning, it’s difficult to get out of bed, much less live a “normal” life. All that was right with the world now seems wrong and you’re wondering when, or if, you’ll ever feel better.

We’ve been there ourselves and understand some of the pain you are feeling right now. We are truly glad that you have found us but profoundly saddened by the reason. We know that you are trying to find your way in a bewildering experience for which no one can truly be prepared.

When you’re newly bereaved, suddenly you find yourself on an emotional roller-coaster where you have no idea what to expect next. Here are thoughts on some of what you may be experiencing or feeling:


  • Your memory has suddenly become clouded. You’re shrouded in forgetfulness. You’ll be driving down the road and not know where you are or remember where you’re going. As you walk, you may find yourself involved in “little accidents” because you’re in a haze.
  • You fear that you are going crazy.
  • You find there’s a videotape that constantly plays in an endless loop in your mind, running through what happened.
  • You find your belief system is shaken and you try to sort out what this means to your faith.
  • Placing impossible deadlines on yourself, you go back to work, but find that your mind wanders and it’s difficult to function efficiently or, some days, at all. Others wonder when you’ll be over “it,” not understanding that you’ll never be the same person you were before your loved one died—and the passage of time will not make you so.
  • You find yourself reading the same paragraph over and over again trying to understand what someone else has written.


    • You rail against the injustice of not being allowed the choice to die instead of your loved one.
    • You find yourself filled with anger, whether it be at your partner, the doctor, a person you believe is responsible for your loved one’s death, God, yourself, and even the person for dying.
    • You yearn to have five minutes, an hour, a day back with your loved one so you can tell them of your love or thoughts left unsaid.
    • Guilt becomes a powerful companion as you blame yourself for the death of your child. Rationally you know that you were not to blame—you most certainly would have saved your child if you’d been given the chance.
    • You feel great sadness and depression as you wrestle with the idea that everything important to you has been taken from you. Your future has been ruined and nothing can ever make it right.


      • Either you can’t sleep at all or you sleep all the time. You feel physical exhaustion even when you have slept.
      • You no longer care about your health and taking care of yourself—it just doesn’t seem that important anymore.
      • You’re feeling anxiety and great discomfort—you’re told they’re panic attacks.
      • The tears come when you least expect them.
      • Your appetite is either gone or you find yourself overeating.

        Family & Social

        • You find that your remaining family at home grieves the loss differently and you search for a common ground which seems difficult to find.
        • You’ve been told by well-meaning people, even professionals, that 70-80-90 percent of all couples divorce after their child dies. You are relieved to find that new studies show a much lower divorce rate, from 12-16%, believed to be caused by the “shared experience” aspect of the situation.
        • Old friends seem to fade away as you learn they cannot comprehend the extent or length of your grief.
        • Things you liked to do which seemed so important before now seem meaningless.
        • Others say you’ll someday find “closure,” not understanding that closure never applies when it is the death of someone close.
        • Fleeting thoughts of pleasurable activities bring about feelings of guilt. If your loved one can’t have fun, how can you do anything that brings you enjoyment?
        • New friends come into your life who understand some of your grief because they’ve been there themselves.

          Finding the “New Me”

          When you’re newly bereaved, you don’t see how you can put one foot in front of the other, much less survive this loss. You’ll never “recover” from your loss nor will you ever find that elusive “closure” they talk of on TV—but eventually you will find the “new me.” You will never be the same person you were before your loved one died. It may be hard to believe now, but in time and with the hard work of grieving (and there’s no way around it), you will one day think about the good memories of when your loved one lived rather than the bad memories of how they died. You will even smile and, yes, laugh again someday—as hard to believe as that may seem.Please check our website for the nearest grief support group in your area. Or call us at 844-523-2999 and we’ll be happy to give you any grief support and resources available to you. We have many other ways of providing support including: our website which provides plenty information for you to Find Support, Resources, Connect With Us, and Get Involved; our Facebook Page with over 400 members; our annual Heal Yourself – ‘One Night Only’ event; Project 1225. We will be here as long as you need us. Even though you are newly bereaved and the road is long, we invite you to walk with us for as long as the journey takes.

In loving memory of Jada Julissia Reynolds